NOBODY CARES and other holiday thoughts

This post is a part of the monthly travel linkup! I've missed the past few months because I was trying to revamp this blog, but now I'm back, baby! I'm excited to start participating again. :)

It's easy to feel like you're under a microscope during the holiday season. You see family members that you probably only see once or twice a year, so they're all asking the same questions.

What are you up to now?
How's school going?
What are you going to do after you graduate?
Have any jobs lined up?
Dating anyone special?

Just kidding, no one asks me that last question because everyone knows I'm chronically single. As for those other questions, they freakin suck. 

With a family full of doctors and nurses and chemical engineers and stay-at-home moms and electricians and accountants, it's hard to say, "I don't want to get a ~real~ job anytime soon, I want to see the world while I'm young and healthy". 

They thought it was really cool when I did a semester abroad and a summer in Europe, but now it's time for me to get ~serious~. But hey! I don't want to get serious just yet! Or in other terms, I'm super serious about traveling and seeing as much as I can before the world gets dark.

It's easy to get wrapped up in my thoughts with all of these questions flying at me. Maybe I should get a longterm job right out of college. Maybe I should start applying to graduate school immediately. Maybe I should start getting qualifications that'll land me a high-paying job. I'm so silly, thinking I can just travel wherever without a solid job to return to!

It's easy to feel like you're under a microscope during the holidays and to get anxious, but then I remember that NOBODY CARES. Aside from my parents and grandparents, who will always worry no matter what, NOBODY REALLY CARES about what I do with my life.

Sure, they might as at holiday parties on my birthday, but outside of those two instances, no one is concerned with what I'm doing. I hadn't seen most of the family members I saw at Thanksgiving in almost 11 months. You know how much time was spent talking about my 8 month trip to Scotland and Europe? Probably a max of 5 minutes. And 3 of those minutes were spent talking about THEIR Eurotrips when they were young.


It's not a big deal that I want to go back to Europe for four months after I graduate. It's not a big deal that I want to go teach English in South Korea. It's not a big deal that I want to be an au pair in France or a tour guide in the American midwest. Nobody gives more thought to these plans than me.

The point of this post is to remind you to not get too wrapped up in what others think. 

If they are judging you, the judgment will only last a few seconds, and who cares anyway! 

Holiday season mantra: NOBODY! CARES!

Live your life the way you want, boo boo. 


  1. Ahh this is a great post & a great mantra for the holidays! I too get a bit stressed when faced with all those questions, and constantly trying to answer them in a way that is honest to myself but won't stress out the other people in my life who have maybe more "traditional" views of what I should be doing in my 20s. I'll be thinking of your mantra this holiday season!

  2. First of all, I love your writing style because I can really hear your voice through it all! Secondly, I can totally relate to this post! I graduated with my Master's about a year ago and still get asked the whole "When are you going to actually use your degree?" And I've tried to tell them the same thing you did, about how I just want to see this world while I'm young and healthy. Then, they tell me that I can do that when I retire but trust me, some of the most stunning places I've been wouldn't be seen if I was over 50. Keep living girl! Do what makes you happy because in the end we can look back and say I DID THAT!


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