22 things I need to stop doing

Monday, October 16, 2017

Photo by Hans Vivek

A week ago I turned 22, but in order to solidify my new age, I must write about it. A lot of people do the "22, 25, 30, etc. things I've learned" posts to celebrate their birthdays, but honestly, I feel too young for that.  Sure, I definitely learned a lot while living 8 months abroad, but I also realize I still have a lot of learning left to do. I need to let my lessons sit and marinate for awhile before I put them in a definitive list for the entire internet to see. (Lol "entire internet", I sure do think highly of myself.)

So here are 22 things I need to STOP doing in order to become a full-fledged adult. It's a lot easier to point out my bad habits than to correct them, but this post is at least one step in the right direction.

  1. Caring about what other people think.
  2. Texting guys I don't actually care about just because I'm bored. 
  3. Eating a whole ice cream carton in one sitting. 
  4. Using "hey I walk a lot!" as an excuse not to exercise. 
  5. Reading too many books at once. Either finish the dang book or decide not to finish it and give it to someone who will actually read it. 
  6. Eating canned soup for dinner when I have ingredients for a quick and easy meal in the pantry. 
  7. Hate-reading someone's blog.
  8. Hate-scrolling through someone's Instagram. (Don't do these things! They're not good for you!)
  9. Using "my hair is dirty" as an excuse to not go out. Just wash your hair! It's not that hard!
  10. Letting my tank get dangerously empty before I refill it. 
  11. Complaining about how bored I am while also not reaching out to anyone. 
  12. Extensively plan trips that I have no hope of taking anytime soon. It's a waste of time to plan that much detail, Victoria. 
  13. Talking myself out of things just because I get nervous. 
  14. Worry over why someone doesn't like me. It literally does not matter. 
  15. Starting a language on Duolingo and doing too much at once then burning out and quitting.
  16. Getting a caramel macchiato at Dunkin Donuts when I have a PERFECTLY GOOD Keurig and percolator at home. 
  17. Not journaling because I'm "too tired" or "nothing happened that today". Something happens everyday girl!!! Write about it!!!
  18. Chugging Dr. Pepper like type II diabetes doesn't run in the family. 
  19. Hitting snooze too many times.
  20. Thinking I will one day actually eat breakfast at the appropriate breakfast time. 
  21. Drinking coffee when I KNOW it'll give me the runs. 
  22. Pretending I ever think about anything besides One Direction and the five boys' individual careers. 
Happy birthday to me! Cheers! 

Consume This #4

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Photo by Anete Lūsiņa

Consume This
 is my monthly curated list of interesting links to things for you to read, watch, and listen.  If you come across something you think I’ll like, tweet at me.

R  E  A  D  I  N  G

the emotional labor of female travel bloggers

another great piece on emotional labor, on a more general scale

how to stop being a "chill girl" and be yourself

thoughts on bloggers selling out and faking lifestyles 

the personal essay isn't dead. it's just no longer white. 

Ideal Bookshelf shop, which makes cute prints with popular books in specific genres.  I want the Southern Lit, Paris, Travel, Feminism, and Writing

Shonda Rhimes has started a new women-focused website and I'm excited to see how it develops.

Kelsey J Barnes writes about online friendship in her latest newsletter: my friends

the paranoid girls of tumblr

The Problem with Rupi Kaur's Poetry: I don't really agree with it but it offers some good points

I cried over this because Geraldine is such a great writer: I Have Written About Currywurst, My Love

the first time I left home (and fell in love)

the new midlife crisis (aka we need to talk about women and their problems more but what else is new)

Philippa Gregory is at it again uncovering women hidden from history!!!

W A T C H I N G  &  L I S T E N I N G

Pop Culture Detective is a great YouTube channel that analyzes masculinity and misogyny in popular movies and TV shows. They have two episodes out on the Big Bang Theory and it's great.

An Ode to Broken Spines (poetry video about loving books) 
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